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LESSONS IN LOVE - THE UNCONDITIONAL KIND (1, 2, 3)
by Eric Theeman
LESSON ONE
First: Review the articles on Unconditional Love. You need be very clear how it differs from ordinary, common or garden, conditional love.
Conditional love is a thought or cluster of thoughts, from the mind. It is, commonly, a bargaining chip, it often refers to conditions in the past or what I want from you in the future!
Unconditional Love is an energy from the Heart- Energy Center. It is, as of now; in the present. It seeks nothing from the recipient. It is a pure giving. It creates an effect on the person, which is usually visible. It blesses one who gives and the one who receives!
We have two major lessons to learn, at this time, in this Earth experience.
The second one is the willingness to co-operate and Unconditional Love opens the way to that.
As with many other things we learn, your ability to use unconditional Love will improve with practice and the first person, at hand, on whom you can always practice your loving, with beneficial effect, is yourself!
When you have felt the effects of this love, on yourself and how it raises your well being, you will be more willing to extend it to your family, friends and even to strangers.
Begin by doing a meditation on your Heart-center; finding and expanding the unconditional Love, which is there. The Heart-Center is a space, about the size of your fist, which lies in front of your spine (not over on the left). It is about the level of the nipples in a man and somewhat higher in a woman. Sit quietly and focus your attention on that space. Soon you should be able to feel something. The love there may feel to you as a slight warmth, a fullness or just a loving feeling. Concentrate on that for a while. If the feeling or your perception changes, stick with it, longer, until it settles down. The changes are likely to be stress coming off because you are attending to that area. If there is much stress in your heart (broken relationships, maybe) or much emotion, such as grief, from losing a loved one, ease up but keep going and realize you are doing well by allowing this to release and that release will help you extend unconditional Love in future. If you really can't feel anything in that heart-space, try imagining love there and then you will be able to contact it.
After you gain some familiarity with this, expand that love to move, beyond the Heart-space, to fill your body, your limbs and head. If you are having difficulty with any part of your body, it will be very beneficial to concentrate on sending the love to that part, for quite some time and very often.
Love is a very healing energy!
Next extend the love-energy beyond your skin. You do not end at your skin barrier, you have an aura, which is an energy field, surrounding your body and extending from a couple of inches to a norm of maybe a foot and a half to even further, in healthy or developed people. When you mix the energy of love with the energy in your aura you will feel an increase of love, energy and well being, usually, immediately. Love energy goes well with the subtle energies of the aura.
A Reflection on Unconditional Love
When you have gained some control of this energy, directing it or extending it, as a field, you can exercise it by sending love to yourself via your reflection in your mirror. (a process first put out by Louse Hay). Stand (or sit) in front of your mirror and contact the love energy, then direct it to your image, in the mirror. Increase the amount and the power of this love. This is great practice in sending love to another person. You will feel the movement of love, as the energy is sent forth. You can, if you wish, try to imagine a reverse flow coming back from the image. Then imagine your Heart-center opening up to receive that. Next, use the love-energy as a field, spreading though your body and surrounding aura and extending out to embrace the mirror image. Practice until you can easily hold the field for several minutes.
LESSON TWO
Sending Unconditional Love to Another
You will need to have a partner who is also keen to open to giving and receiving unconditional love. It is often easier to have a partner who is a stranger to you, so that you will not have old history and conditions arising. However, it is also good to have a partner with whom you are having some difficulties in your relationship, when it will be good practice to direct real unconditional love and keep the conditions at bay.
You will find that this love practice is very healing of relationships and has the very great advantage that it works in the present, without a lot of traumatic investigation, as to who did what to whom in the past and who should feel guilty!
Get agreement as to the time of the session. Understand that this is a non-verbal process but that if one party feels the need to communicate some extra feeling or a condition, which has arisen, that it is okay to hear them out and so discharge it.
Most of your attention should be on the love which is flowing but at times when you have your eyes open, take note if your partner shows a reaction, such as release of facial tensions, general relaxation, smiling etc., which will be feedback, to tell you that you are doing well and your love is really being received.
Before beginning, particularly, if this is your first session with this partner, please give your partner a hug. Take some special notice of how this feels to you, as we will be referencing this later.
Sit opposite your partner, knees almost touching., raise your hands and place them, palm to palm, touching your partner's. Most people find it helpful to close their eyes, at this point.
Begin by both re-doing the exercise on finding and expanding the love in the Heart-Center.
While expanding the love through the body, concentrate it and direct it down your arms, into your hands and to your partner's hands and into their Heart-center. Some people find it helps to have an inch or so of space between the hands; try it that way and see which is best for you. If you find this relaxing and enjoyable, you might keep doing it for some time. It is beneficial to continue doing this, not only for the present-time good feeling but also because it over-rides thoughts and conditions which may have collected around your love for this person. Next time you extend love to this person, in an ordinary living situation, apart from a session, you may well find that it is clearer and flows more easily because it is now free of those extra conditions!
Again, focus on your love, in your Heart-space and flow love to your partner via your palms. This time, your partner will be passive and allow the love to come in and enjoy receiving it.
Suggested time five minutes but continue as you wish especially, if your partner is lapping it up or see can see them getting reactions. Then reverse the flow, so that you are receiving, while your partner sends you love.
If there's ever been times in your life, where you have felt unloved, you might experiment with allowing this flow of love to go to those situations and wash out the lack of love you experienced. Continue to build the power of this love; reversing flows until you feel you are complete for the time being.
Now concentrate, again, on increasing the love in your Heart-space; focus directly on your partner's heart-space and direct your unconditional love across to them and into their Heart Center. This should begin as a two-way flow but you may take turns at sending when you wish.
Relax and enjoy! Time spent on this is beneficial, relaxing and enjoyable! This may be done with eyes open or closed.
Now, close eyes and allow an accumulation of love-energy behind them. Give this a little time. When you are ready, open your eyes and when your partner opens theirs send that love energy to them, via their eyes. People who find this a strain can keep their eyes shut and visualize sending love to their partner's eyes. After doing this a few times, perhaps in later sessions, you will likely find that it gets easier and easier, to look into your loved ones eyes and send love to them, without strain!
LESSON THREE
Now, putting this all together. Place palms to palms, allow love energy to flow. Open your Heart-space and direct a flow to your partner's heart-space; and allow love to flow through your eyes. Bask for some time in these love flows, enjoy the good feelings and warmth! When you are both ready, stand and give your partner another hug.
Handling Love Fields
After a break, or in the next session, try using an encompassing love, as a field. Re-do previous exercises and get the love flowing. Now focus on expansion, from the Heart-space; all through your body and into your aura and extending further.
Allow and perceive this field growing until it surrounds your partner's body as well. Be aware that they are also creating a loving field around you, intertwining with your field. This may give you some idea as to what love-in-Spirit is like. Do this for a while and enjoy. There are benefits, releases and realizations, which may not be apparent to you at first.
When you have both build some confidence in using unconditional love energy, you can introduce a little game. When your partner is feeling a flow of love, ask them, "How could you block it?" Be aware that this may produce a strong reaction, as it access times they have blocked love, consciously or unconsciously and they may not be willing to play. If there is strong protest, don't force it but you can usually get past it by saying, "How about we see if I can get past the block?"
As the partner shields or blocks you will need to increase the flow (good practice) or find another way to direct it. Maybe you could send it around behind. Take this as a guide, 'Unconditional Love is the highest vibration in the Universe!' It cannot be blocked. If you see or feel your partner blocking, you may go into agreement and not be able to reach but that will be your own idea not her blockage of your unconditional. Love.
To feel what its like to have your love rejected is not a nice experience as it will perhaps connect you to times when that it really did happen and to your lowered self-esteem, at those times. However it is, again, good practice to overcome such old conditions and keep confident that blockages and rejections can be overcome, without the use of words. Reverse the flow and you do the receiving and the block. If you didn't get through the first time you may on another attempt, when you have soaked in more love-energy. Love works that way! If all else fails, think of a friend of mine, who couldn't find any way to get past his partner's block and was in despair about it. Suddenly he jumped off his seat and gave her a great big hug, causing her to let go and receive his love.
Which goes to show the power of a hug!
Now give your partner a hug while you both hold a field and compare this with the hug you did at the beginning!
As you gain confidence, you might be able to try this in a group that you attend or do a mini- workshop to help people with the most important lesson in their life! When people get to feel real love they will say intriguing things such as, "This is what I have been looking for all my life!" or "This is going to make big changes in my kids attitudes!" Most everywhere you will find a need for more love. Try sending real love over Cyberspace. Works well over ICQ. You can work miracles with that program. Just seek them out.
In a group, do the above in pairs then form a circle, hold hands and all pass love from your right hand to your next door person's left, while you receive from the person on your left. All create a field of love over and around the circle. Play with it. Put it all behind and all into the middle; have it rise to Heaven, like a fountain and shower down over the circle. Remind everyone to appreciate and be grateful for all this love, which has seemed so scarce, up till now.
Long group hug!
With love,
Eric/Huggie
 Eric is a Spiritual Healer and Metaphysical Wordsmith. He is a prof. massuer, specialising in 'Holistic Pulsing'; an advanced and blissful type of massage. He has had many years of experience in counseling, specialising in, Past Life Regression' back in the '50s. He has written several small, practical books (see list). He runs workshops on using the 'ENERGY OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE'. The text and lessons of this workshop are available on request, huggie@e3.net.nz
"Who would be a king
when they could be a Healer!"
WORDS FROM 'TWEEN
Thank you to our dear friend and teacher from beautiful Australia. 'tween is pleased to honor his work. If you wish to contact Eric down under, please feel free to do so.
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